The primary focus of couples counseling is the relationship, but couples counseling has a huge additional benefit – it is one of the best ways to promote individual growth in the participants.
The setting is ideal for learning:
- A maximum feedback situation. You live with someone who gives you lots of feedback.
- You get to practice new behaviors all the time.
- The stakes are high. Divorce is very, very expensive.
- The learning is readily transferable to all your dealings with other people.
- The quality of your relationships, not just your primary one, is one of the major determinants of overall happiness.
Terry Real’s book, US, is an important call to being more relational in all aspects of your life. He stresses the need for all of us to develop an US mentality versus a You/Me mentality.
If you are intrigued by the prospect of making this change in your own life, read more about how I can help you here.